Thursday, April 8, 2010

Not From a Military Background

I do not come from a military background, but I am thankful we lived in one place all my life until I married. I am thankful we did not move around from place to place. I like living in one place. I am a homebody like my mom. Moving was a big adjustment for me being an only child, but I have survived it across the river for 16 years although I still consider myself from Georgia. Our anniversary is tomorrow.

As I said, I did not come from a military background, but lived in a military town next to Ft. Benning, Ga. I dated a few soldiers stationed here, but knew they were not the one for me. I would never get serious as I did not want to move away except one man, one time but that is another story that happened a lifetime ago. I live in the real world now.

Titles and ranks have never been important to me. It is important to people I work with especially if I get them wrong as it is hard to keep up with their changing ranks. I consider myself an above average person although I am extraordinarily me. I have been called a "civilian" by co-workers that have a military background almost like it is a bad thing, but it doesn't bother me. I am proud to be who I am where I am. I know I am where I am meant to be at this moment in my life.

I work with a majority of men having served in the military. I am thankful for their service, but today I was reminded once again of the differences between males and females. I have to order supplies such as clothing, uniforms, office supplies, guns and ammo, etc. I was having to pull a lot of documents dealing with weapons and ammo. I had to pull the ammo document. I made the mistake of asking, "You mean bullets?". I was then told I obviously did not play army as a kid. Well, I did play army with my cousin Ben, but he attacked and killed all my men before I knew what happened. I did not like to play army with him. Maybe I don't play well with others. Growing up, I did play cowboys & Indians and Roy Rogers with my neighbor Steve. I had two imaginary horses, a palamino and a white horse named Sugar. I had two imaginary friends, but that is another story that shrinks would have a field day over. So I regressed to my childhood today back to a simpler time where you only worried about what you were going to play that day. Nothing like the real world of dealing with estates, crazy relatives, everyday life, bills, wondering what to fix for supper and such.

Lately I feel like I have become a more hardened, bossier type of person having to be more aggressive as an excutor. I am not going to let anyone take advantanage of me or run over me. Lately I have become a different kind of person than is normal for me. I cussed more last Friday than I have in a long time. I guess I am more on the defensive. I finally became more agressive saying, "I want this done this week!" My friends say I have every right. They say I have put up with more crap than they could have withstood. Also they say they probably would have gone insane by now. I am made of stronger stuff and proud of it. I give credit to my mom, the strongest lady I know. I am thankfulf or the example she set. I love the fact that Rhett thinks I am a strong momma when I am a real weenie on the inside sometimes. I have been called a Steel Magnolia by my friend Bob. I really like that term. I wish Don could make me some steel magnolias because of this, but I don't really need them to serve as a reminder of my strength I know I possess.

But being a Christian, don't you hate it when you catch someone in a lie? Do you call them on it?

As my friend Genie says, "This too shall pass." I just hope it passes soon...!!

I am thankful for the good Easter weekend we had. I did not take as many pictures as I normally do. I am thankful for all the ideas I have had this week. I am thankful for all the small inexpensive finds I found this week. I got a ring for $1 at Jo-ann's that made me extremely happy. It is really strange that something so inexpensive could make me that happy.

I am thankful for the anniversary card that always arrives early from our friend Helen who has remembered EVERY anniversary. We are thankful for Helen and all our friends. Today I am thankful for my husband who has been supportive in this legal journey I have been on. Hopefully I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel....

If you would like to participate in Thankful Thursday, please go to Lynn's at the following and read her great TT post today... I have been missing Serendipity Park.
http://unequalmarriage.typepad.com/my_weblog/

4 comments:

Paulie said...

Congratulations on the Anniversary!

From Paulie, a former Navy wife lol

More Than Conquerors said...

Hi Becky,

Happy Anniversary to you and your hubby! Glad you found a ring that makes you so happy :) Indeed sometimes it is the little things in life that really makes us happy and matter to us. May God continue to bless you and family with little surprises daily!

Thanks for your visit and sweet comments too. It is always encouraging to hear from you, sweet friend. Take care and have a very blessed week.

Warm regards,
Nancie

Denise said...

Congrats on your anniversary. I think you are wonderful just as you are. Sending you love, hugs, and prayers.

becky aka theRAV said...

Thanks Paulie for the congrats! LOL Thank you Nancie for the anniversary wishes. I am so glad I found that ring too. Indeed you are quite right, my friend. I think little surprises are the best kind. May you have a few small surprises as well. Thank you so much for saying that, Denise!!! I can feel the love and the hugs! Thank you all!